Why What We Don’t Say Matters.
Our brain can leak poison. Like mercury it drips slowly into our blood stream as unspoken negative thoughts and feelings imperceptibly (at first) corrode our cells.
I know, I know, our ideas and judgments are justified! I’m sure we would not have them otherwise.
Even so, our strategy is flawed: these righteous thoughts of resentment and criticism never in actuality punish the other person, but they do taint us.
In the books of Carlos Castaneda, Don Juan talks about the First Attention, and the Second Attention.
The First Attention is what you say, how you present yourself, and what you want the world to see of you.
The Second Attention are those thoughts and feelings you DON’T say… possibly because they are hurtful or might cause a reaction.
Keeping the Second Attention hidden makes sense when we were thinking of ourselves as physical, individual separate bodies… seeing the particle but not the wave, the wires but not the electricity…
but the truth is how we feel and think has more impact than what we say or do. We thought that inner critic was private and harmless, but it is not private and most definitely not harmless.
Small children and empaths easily perceive the Second Attention.
If only judgments, projections, blame and self-criticism were easy to drop! They can be.. through self-acceptance.
We judge and criticize others from cramped and pinched parts of ourselves.
That’s why people in love are so much more accepting… at least for the moment they have elevated in conscious with a kind of “love high.”
Our judgments of others really work against us!
When we see through, relax around or let go of a judgement we soften that contraction. The result is we liberate a bit of our own stuck, congealed or curtailed power! Once free, this mental or emotional energy is now available to support us in our daily lives.
This is a new, unprecedented time in history. Last century the western world went from outhouses and horse drawn wagons to airplanes, computers and the world wide web. This century our frontier is not technology but emotional health and maturity. We have emotional understanding and tools never available previously, except to a fortunate few.
Those people who taught you to judge came from a different era. It worked back then! It kept people in line. The new normal is not conformity, it is authenticity! We don’t need to repress to fit in, we need to express, discover and create.
Stop poisoning yourself with habitual negativity. As you witness, soften and release one judgement at a time, you allow your true self to radiate!