Spiritual Acceptance, or a Cop-Out?
“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” ~George Orwell
How do we understand something we cannot see, smell, or taste, like Acceptance?
When we stand together in a room at a table discussing its features, it is easy to come to agreement. We see the table in front of us. We can touch and measure it. We can lean on it and test its strength. We are able to determine if it fits in the dining room. A table can be seen and felt.
It gets tricky to discuss our common experience with words like “Acceptance,” because there is no solid object we can point to and measure.
Plus, just as there are different tables there are also different forms of acceptance.
In spiritual forums I have noticed some people use “acceptance” as a way to avoid dealing with a person or situation.
Acceptance with an unwanted situation does not mean we stop making any effort to change it. Quite the opposite, when we accept something we do not want we become more resourceful.
“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” ~Eckhart Tolle
So what is spiritual acceptance and when does it best apply?
Spiritual acceptance is a resourceful and discerning state of being.
People also imbue spiritual acceptance with the power to grant permission. As if to say: “well we have to accept everything, so there is no good and bad, and people can do whatever they want and I should accept them.”
It is true that we waste time and energy when we try to control or change another person. It is also true that we lose energy when we gossip or criticize others.
However when we deeply accept what is, we clearly discern between what supports our growth and well-being, and what thwarts it.
There is good and bad, better and worse, supportive and destructive. Not all actions and attitudes get the same results. Discernment helps us navigate the best path forward.
Luckily, our highest path is NOT the same as our neighbors, so we do not need to discern for them. They get to discern for themselves, just like we do.
In our powerful place of true, relaxed acceptance we do benefit others. Our clarity enhances the lives of the people around us, effortlessly as we live in it.
Spiritual acceptance is an empowered, centered state. It acknowledges that we are connected to a Universe that supports our well-being, and on a path that can and will unfold — sometimes in magical ways.