Emotions Are Energy
At some point in history we, collectively, decided to dampen our animal nature and explore reason, order, and the potential of the human mind.
It was a good move at the time. Fast forward a few thousand years, and welcome to the twenty-first century.
Our lives transformed in wonderful ways, but the limits of this system are becoming obvious.
Logic can organize vast cities and build skyscrapers but it can also justify almost any evil. Logic justifies war. Reason justifies the violation and mistreatment of natural areas, animals, and humans.
How do we, collectively, enjoy the ease and comfort of our modern world AND ALSO develop a true and lasting harmony that sustains us?
The answer is in our emotions.
Emotional Intelligence is the capability of individuals to recognize their own and other people’s emotions, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately, use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, and manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one’s goals.
We developed our mental abilities at the cost of emotional awareness. To get to the next level we must bring mind and heart back into cooperative balance.
Emotional Intelligence is actually a better predictor of success than IQ.
When we are self-aware we are more responsive to others. We can adapt and learn better and we act as better leaders because we see from more than one point of view.
Why is this such a revolutionary understanding?
Because a cornerstone of our culture has been emotional suppression, repression, projection and denial — causing problems in health, relationships and self-worth. In spite of its problems we can all be Jedi masters at ignoring what we feel because we saw it modeled as children.
Luckily, emotional intelligence CAN be learned.
One great first step is to realize that emotions are just energy.
You can feel angry and not yell or act out. You can feel sad and know it is a temporary sensation just passing through. You can feel shame and still be loved. We give arbitrary meanings and values to these feelings, but in reality they are intelligent energy passing through.
Rarely do we give time for our emotions to breathe. Those moments of quiet we do have, we fill with TV, video games, Facebook, phone calls….
Sometimes these habits are designed to avoid feeling — very useful in the old system but debilitating in the new.
Next time you feel and uncomfortable something OR if you’re about to engage in an activity designed to suppress or avoid emotions… ASK yourself what you are feeling.
Rather than using valuable life force to deny or repress, REGAIN liberated life force by acknowledging and (gasp) feeling your feeling.
The danger in doing this, at first, is your mind can get hooked. Your brain starts to associate every memory you’ve ever had of feeling this way and you start to descend into a worse-feeling place. This is NOT the practice and happens when we treat the emotion as real — instead of witnessing intelligent energy as it passes through and delivers a message.
When I first started this practice, I would know I was feeling “off” because cravings for specific foods or distractions would come up. In the beginning I knew mentally I was feeling something, because I was actively taking steps to avoid the emotion, but I honestly had no clue what that emotion was. You may be a quicker study than I was, but it is OK to not know what you’re feeling. Just witness how you compensate and lovingly observe.
Just like the first time you drive down a street you only notice a few details, but the one hundredth time you drive down that same street you are seeing all sorts of things you did not notice that first time, so our emotions become apparent through repeated exposure.