Denied Emotions Control Us
Emotional control is central to civilized society.
Think of standing in line at a DMV or a stadium. It is one of the most frustrating and tedious things we have to do but we put up with it because, eventually, everyone gets served. Getting upset and screaming in frustration won’t improve the process or help us finish faster.
In general we’re exceptionally good at controlling our emotions with generations of practice — we’ve been smothering them for centuries.
It’s so natural we barely notice were doing it. For some people it’s as if they don’t have emotions at all.
Naturally, any extreme cultivates it’s opposite. Crime, addiction, and mental illness are often outcroppings of repressed emotion since trauma or ptsd can overwhelm our suppressive mechanism. It is just too much to hold in and still function normally. The best we’ve been able to do for ‘those people’ have been medication, prisons, mental institution and rehab centers, which is management but no solution.
Some self-help teachers talk about ’emotional mastery.’ ‘Regain control of your life’ they tell you! That’s just an attempt to get on the right side of the old paradigm by re-establishing mental dominance over the emotional body so we can fit in to the old system.
We don’t have to suppress, repress or deny how we feel anymore… we can develop emotional presence and intelligence and connect with our Intuition.
Imagine if we never pooped. If people walked around painfully constipated, bent over from the effort of holding it in. “Success” was defined as someone with a very long digestive track who barely ate and therefore never inconvenienced others with his messy humanity.
This example sounds silly because we have private bathrooms for such things… but where do we go to dump toxic emotional waste? Bars, nightclubs, dating sites… nowhere healthy.
Plus, denying and avoiding emotions makes us blind to them and vulnerable.
Blind to an emotion = unable to access or apply the vital information coded inside the feeling.
Blind to an emotion = easily manipulated. If we mistrust our own perceptions, we look to outside authority to tell us good from bad and right from wrong. Each small way we do that, we replace our God-given inner guidance system with a man-made up one.
So don’t be afraid to ask yourself how you are feeling. When you experience an emotion without acting on it, reacting, or getting mentally engaged it will simply wash right through.
Think of it as unlocking additional genius. The effort you would apply to repressing or avoiding that negative feeling is now free as pure consciousness for your daily triumphs.